Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Don't mention the war!

The war between the sexes, that is.

Or rather, perhaps, the war between Rationality and Commercial Brainwashing.

I am NOT a fan of Valentine's Day. Oh no.

I had hoped to gather a group of like-minded curmudgeonly singles for a bit of a party tonight; but I realise that just about all of my buddies (er, including the female ones...) have wives/girlfriends now, and so they are all PRISONERS on this day. I face another glum evening at home with the television.

I mentioned it once, but I think I got away with it.


John said...

Are you at all anxious about being unmarried at your age, in general I mean not just at Valentine's? Mind you, Basil and Sybil were hardly the happy couple and wholesome marriage had imprisoned them for years. ;¬)
PS: No, I'm not acting deliberately Chinese!

Froog said...

Yes, that is a very impertinent question.

What's with "at your age"? Does that imply all kinds of culturally-conditioned prejudices about whether and at what age someone ought to get married??

I have never been concerned about being 'married' - not religious, and don't attach any importance to these outward forms. I do, however, like the idea of finding someone to share my life and committing to permanent monogamy.

But more than the companionship, I really wanted to have kids. Felt that very acutely 10 or 15 years ago. The window has passed, I fear: I'm in my late 40s, so I'd very likely be dead before they finished college; and I'd damn certain I won't be physically robust enough when I'm 60 (I'm not now, dammit), to play with teenage children as I would want to be able to.

So, do I regret not having a wife/girlfriend? Not really. Do I regret not having kids? Not as such. Do I regret not having had the opportunity to settle down and have kids when I was in my 30s? Yes.

John said...

Sorry Froog, didn't mean to be rude and although I felt I touched a nerve I sensed your anger abate as I read through your reply almost as if you were glad to put your feelings on 'paper'? Again, I don't mean to insinuate so perhaps I should explain why I asked. I'll be 30 myself come the end of the year but I don't feel ready for marriage whatsoever. I won't go into details but I just wanted to hear what you had to say.
I've read a fair few of your articles so I think I understand why you haven't yet set roots and while you have regrets about not having children yet I would say you're wrong about not being able to muck in with the kids when they're teens. Apart from your gammy knee (which you can get fixed) you keep in shape and we all know health care and life expectancy is improving day by day. There's also the simple fact that children these days don't necessarily want their fathers to be running around with them much after 15. And there are so many more leisurely pursuits that you can both share and pass on skills or whatever it is that dads do. OK so I'm no expert on the matter and after my parents divorced when I was 10 my relationship with my father further deteriorated but be optimistic I say!
Well that was a little too cushy if I do say so myself, I guess it must be the dreaded buy cards, chocs and other crap day having an effect on me. *gives a more masculine nod, says "a'ight", moves on*

Froog said...

My knee is gammy because I got it 'fixed'. The NHS is crap with cartilage repairs.

And the other gammy leg is a medical mystery...

John said...

When was this? If we're talking a while ago I expect things have improved since. I didn't know your other one has a problem too, you're almost handicapped.

Froog said...

Unless they've developed really good robots for doing this kind of thing, I remain sceptical.

Cartilage repairs are seen as being the most minor of minor surgeries. And minor surgeries are assigned to junior housemen who mostly don't know their arse from their elbow. 'Twas ever thus, and always will be. That's just the way of the medical world in England.